Follow the rules

I don’t even know where this comes from.

This need to follow the rules.

To see guidelines as rules.

My sense making part can figure out many reason why it thinks it came to be.

But the longer I am in this game the more I come to see that it’s often not what I think it is.

The reason, the cause is often something different.

But these parts,

Process parts I’ve come to call them.

Are so much harder to connect with.

Shame is another process part. Judgement.

They are usually so very subtle.

So subtle you don’t even notice them.

It’s times like these that I think we need other tools.

Other ways to help the part relax and repair.

IFS isn’t the only way to do it.

But that means breaking a rule.