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Anger, Shame & Hope
A mish-mash of what goes on inside my #busybrain. Welcome to a space I’ve created to befriend my anger and shame. All in the hope of living a life of joy and pleasure.
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But I’m playing by the rules.
I know the story. I see the pattern. Thanks, Dad. Not.
But knowing this is not enough. Knowing that I am living out this pattern from my childhood is not enough to change it.
ACT would say get distance from it in some way and then take valued action.
IFS would say heal the burden.
I think it’s a bit of both. I can heal the burden through getting some distance and taking valued action.
Getting it right
Rules. Rules have long been my thing.
But recently things are coming untangled.
I feel freer. Not sure how it necessarily makes a difference in my life. Like how do I DO differently.
But maybe the more I talk about it the sooner I will work it out.
So it started, 3 years ago.
“We both grew up in families where no one asked directly for what they wanted or needed. We learned to use manipulation and indirectness to get others to give us what we wanted.”