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Anger, Shame & Hope
A mish-mash of what goes on inside my #busybrain. Welcome to a space I’ve created to befriend my anger and shame. All in the hope of living a life of joy and pleasure.
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Is my trauma traumatic enough?
Is my trauma traumatic enough?
In a commitment to do trauma-informed work I have been reading a book.
This book has been talking about DID. (Dissociative Identity Disorder)
I forget (have banished from my brain along with all the other diagnoses) that I got this diagnosis back in the day.
I could never reconcile being “functioning” with any of my diagnoses.
Where and how to begin?
To be in relation, the Self also needs to learnt to trust the parts.
To let them do their jobs.
I think pure IFS people would argue then that this is not the Self - but other parts we need to have learn to trust the Self.
But if the Self doesn’t have any agenda, it can’t be impacted then how can this really be an equal relationship?
It’s not.
“We both grew up in families where no one asked directly for what they wanted or needed. We learned to use manipulation and indirectness to get others to give us what we wanted.”